There's No Pressure In Life There's no pressure in life That's the biggest lie Personally, I fell for it sooo bad Pressure to achieve Brought me to my knees Because at the root of it, WHY this urge to achieve? Only reading the Bible made me realize it: To feel loved. To feel like you belong. To feel validated. It is not true that it is for yourself, that you want to achieve stuff for "yourself". "I want to achieve that for me, to feel fulfilled" Deep down, there's a vulnerability. A wound of rejection. By family, friends or society as a whole - that we all somehow experienced but I'll come back to it later. Deep down, you think you're not enough if you don't achieve this thing. Which is not true. That's the wound, right here. You can engage in this accomplishment behavior. It will never satisfy. Only love can heal the wound. And the praise you get from achieving stuff is not love. Even if it feels like it. Being praised only makes you think positive thoughts about yourself. Comforts you in your own "value". Because deep down, you needed people to "validate" this value just to... allow yourself to think those positive thoughts about yourself... How crazy. It'll never be enough as long as you run by this narrative. That's it. (And of course, we really don't want to admit it, pride blinds us to it in ourselves : "no no, I live for myself, not for others, I don't care what people think" WHILE there's this imaginary judge in your mind constantly evaluating how "good" you're doing in life... based on criterias that are ALL *societal*!!!!) Only love can heal the wound (of rejection) that created this need (for validation). And as crazy as it may sound (I know), love is found in Jesus/the Bible. From reading a book. How crazy. I still can't wrap my head around it... This wound you didn't know you had is being healed. (And now let me get back to this : you experienced more or less dramatic human rejection in your life. But, in fact, the biggest part of this wound of rejection is... having lived cut off from God all your life. That's where the emptiness comes from, the need to prove, to achieve, the need to find a partner, the need to climb the social ladder...etc. That's where all those itchy needs that you thought were normal come from. And by finding God, you realize they are not normal but dysfunctional. It's just that 99% of people share this dysfunction and live this way, as you were.) Your need for others' love -- which is not love -- disappears. That's when you finally understand this foreign and foggy concept of the Fall of man, the story of Adam and Eve and the place of Jesus in all that : You were cut off from God's love and Jesus came to reestablish this connexion. This is so deep. It summarizes perfectly many (including mine) people's spiritual journey!! Finally understanding that it all boils down to the need of being loved. Living all your life in search for it and then finding it through Jesus. And coming back to God. Because love *is* God.